Popping the Question: Figuring out the When, Where, How and Who of it All
So the time has come to pop the question. Or at least, you think it might have come. But how do you really know? The answer isn’t the same for everyone, but it typically comes down to love you’re your willingness to settle down. Are you ready to commit your life to your current love? Or perhaps more importantly, can you imagine your life without him or her? Yes, lets not assume that only men ask women here, anybody can do the asking these days.
There are so many important questions which should be considered when thinking about marriage. Have the two of you discussed kids or your hopes for the future? Do you share the same general beliefs about things like finances, religion and child rearing? Do you want you want the same things out of life? Do you make each other happy?
Once you are confident that the answers to all those questions still point to spending your lives together, the planning begins. While each couple is different, there is something to be said for putting a bit of thought and effort into your proposal. That doesn’t necessarily mean coordinating a viral video around the moment you get down on one knee, but instead it means coming up with a plan that is representative of the two of you as a couple. If family is important to you both, having those you love there to witness the big event could be a special touch. If you each enjoy a particular nearby hike, waiting until you get to the top before you drop to your knee could create a memory the two of you will never forget. The thing to remember is coming up with a plan that you each will deem special and romantic for years to come. For some, that may involve an expensive dinner out and a ring at the bottom of a champagne glass. For others, it may mean jumping out of a plane and popping the question mid-air. Put some thought into what would be most representative of the two of you, and remember – this will be a story you are asked to tell again and again. So make it one you don’t mind repeating.
When it comes to the ring, enlisting the help of some of his or her’s closest friends or family members can ensure you pick a piece of jewelry out that they will be excited to wear for the rest of her life. Not everyone has thousands of dollars to spend, and most of the time – that’s OK. But having a basic idea of your soon-to-be fiancé’s tastes can help you to pick out a ring that will be loved, no matter what the cost.
Once you have your ring and your plan, there is just one more thing to consider – hiring a photographer for the big day. In the heat of the moment, you each may forget some of the smaller details surrounding your engagement. Having a photographer waiting in the wings means that you can capture those seconds of surprise and adoration which otherwise may have been lost forever. It also means you have captured chapter ONE in the whole crazy wedding planning process.
Photos your fiancé will be extremely appreciative of when they realize the lengths you went to in order to help you both remember this moment forever.
Rosie & Marni were just engaged on Tuesday at Mt. Soledad Monument. Join me in wishing them the happiest of congratulations!
