Will You Be My Bridesmaid? Fun and Creative Ways to Ask
Has anyone else notice that we are currently in the age of the invite? Between proposals and extravagant proposals (think: intricately designed and produced), is it any wonder that it is now no longer enough to just ask your best friends if they will be your bridesmaids? No, in today’s day and age, you have to step things up.
Okay, so, to be clear, you don’t “have to” do anything. You can still just take your girls to coffee, or get them on Facetime (if they’re living elsewhere) and simply ask, “Hey, do you want to be my bridesmaid?” And they will probably still shriek “Yes!” and jump up and down with you in excitement.
That is still totally acceptable. It’s just that… there are other options, too. If you want to get a little more creative than that.
Those are some fun, simple ways to ask the question. Not too much hassle, but still cute ideas. Pinterest is full of similar concepts.
Then there are the more elaborate plans. For instance, if your potential bridesmaids don’t know he asked you to marry him yet, you could combine the announcement with the invite in a fun proposal video—he asks you, and then you ask them. Something like that could easily be posted to Facebook and you could tag all the bridesmaids you had in mind, this way everyone gets the news at the same time, and you don’t have to worry about tracking down your out of town friends.
Or, you could plan a girl’s trip; some weekend getaway where you all get to relax, get pampered, and enjoy each other’s company. There may be no better time to ask than as you are in the midst of a grown-up slumber party at some fancy hotel or cozy B&B.
Because, yeah…. Your bridesmaid invite could bear a striking resemblance to an actual proposal, if you want!
There is also always the possibility of coming up with an ask that is personalized to you and the women you love. For instance, maybe most of your bridesmaids are going to be women you met in college. In that case, getting together a group to go to a homecoming game and finding a way to ask there (perhaps a message flashed across the jumbotron) could catch them all off guard and top the night off with excitement. Or maybe you have a shared interest in running—seek out the next 10K in your area, get the girls on board, race to the finish, and then hold up a sign as each of your potential bridesmaids crosses the finish line.
Again, no one is expecting you to do any of this. But being someone’s bridesmaid is a big commitment, and these are the women who are going to be going out of their way to ensure you have an amazing time on your big day (and the days leading up to it). They will be planning (and putting a lot into) your shower and your bachelorette party, among many other small details they will be arranging on your behalf along the way. So asking them in a way that is special and unique might be a good way to not only let them know you are asking because they are among your favorite people, but also because you know there is a lot involved in being a bridesmaid.
After all, these women are your best friends in the world, so they should know how important they are to you, and how much you want them by your side on your big day.