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His and Her Wedding Checklists: Part Two

Every once in a while, I like to think I’ve got some really valuable information to offer to brides and grooms. After all, I have been photographing weddings for a few decades now—I’ve picked up a thing or two over the years that can help ensure a seamless day!

Which is why I decided to put together a His and Hers Wedding Checklist—something you and your soon to be spouse can refer to as you prepare for your “I do’s.” Last week, we covered His list. This week… it’s all about you ladies!


If you’re like most brides I work with, you already have a pretty strong idea of what you’re hoping to achieve on your wedding day. The details are already clear in your head—you just need to come up with a plan for ensuring they all turn up in reality at this point. Which means you need to:

  • Map out the timeline of what needs to be done between now and the big day, or hire a wedding planner who can help you with that.
  • Find a venue. You need to know where you’re getting married before you can start nailing down any other plans.
  • Choose your vendors. Florists, photographers, and caterers all book up several months in advance, so be sure to take care of this early!
  • Schedule your engagement photo shoot.
  • Select and send invitations—order Thank You Notes in the same theme.
  • Communicate with your groom. Just because he seems happy to defer to you in the decision-making does not mean he isn’t willing to help. Don’t make the mistake of taking all the planning on yourself; rely on your partner to take over a few things as well.


Maybe you have your heart set on making your own traditions with this wedding day, or perhaps you kind of love the idea of sticking to the tried and true. If that’s the case, these are the traditions you should keep in mind as the bride-to-be:

  • Being Given Away: Will your father walk you down the aisle and give you away, or do you have a stand-in you want to see in that role?
  • The Veil: This was originally a tradition meant to ward off bad spirits (and to trick a groom into saying “I do,” sight unseen.) But today, veils definitely have a classic appearance to them, and can round out your overall wedding look… if you like that sort of thing.
  • The Dress: All white if you’re sticking to tradition, of course.
  • Something Old, Something New, Something Borrowed, Something Blue: If you borrow a blue garter from a friend, that could count off 3 of the 4 right there.
  • Tossing the Bouquet: As the night comes to an end, toss your bridesmaids your bouquet and let one of them bask in the promise of being the next in your group to get married!

 Special Touches

You’ve undoubtedly put a lot of planning into your big day, but that doesn’t mean you can’t take a few extra steps to ensure the day is extra special for your groom-to-be:

  • Have a flask with his initials and favorite liquor inside delivered on the day of your wedding, along with a sweet note and the reminder to only have a shot or two for nerves!
  • Give the DJ a list of his favorite songs. Sure, you have a plan in your head for the music you want playing at your reception. But if you can work a few of his favorites into the playlist, he’ll be surprised and will love you all the more.
  • The lingerie; this isn’t exactly unexpected, but having a sexy new piece of lingerie to show off on your wedding night is sure to make your groom a happy man!