Where to Turn for Wedding Inspiration
Where to Turn for Wedding Inspiration
It used to be that when a couple got engaged, the bride to be’s mom or best friend would show up on her doorstep with a stack of wedding magazines and a notebook to start compiling ideas. There was probably wine involved, and a lot of elated giggling. Scissors and a glue stick may have also played a prominent roll. But in the end, the main source of inspiration was those magazines. Well, those magazines and any ideas the bride to be may have been storing away of her own over the years.
Today, inspiration goes far beyond just what those magazines can offer. Don’t get me wrong, the magazines still exist—and can still be a great resource. But there are also blogs to turn to, twitter pages, tumblr, and an unlimited supply of pinning to do. “Real Weddings” are everywhere. A bride to be is more likely to go through these options by herself late into the evenings nowadays, perhaps sending a few images here and there to those she loves—forever pretending she’s not spending as much time going through the piles of inspiration available to her as she actually is.
And that’s okay! Going through all that inspirational material is fun. There’s a reason a lot of women start compiling their own wedding boards, even long before they are in a relationship that may lead to marriage. It’s because it’s not at all uncommon to grow up dreaming of your wedding day, or to have fun imagining what that day may eventually look like.
So if you’ve been sucked in by all the wedding inspiration, don’t feel bad—you’re certainly not alone! But if I could give one piece of advice to all the brides to be I work with, it would be to not get too sucked in by all the images they come across. Don’t show up at your first appointment with your wedding planner intent on copying the 100+ images you pinned to your wedding board.
Not only is everything you come across from last year (and most of it was copied from the year before that) but the more tightly you hold onto your wedding inspiration, the less likely you are to create a wedding that is truly unique to you and your relationship.
Also, trying to draw inspiration from so many different sources often creates a disjointed event that is way too jam packed with all the elements you just couldn’t live without.
I see it all the time. A cutesy idea makes it to Pinterest, and suddenly every wedding I photograph for the next 6 months (or more) incorporates it. Mason jars anyone? And that’s fine. If it’s something you really like or want, absolutely, go for it. But don’t be afraid to cultivate your own ideas as well. To possibly stay away from all that wedding inspiration, and leave your head clear to be the one who inspires—the one who creates new trends and cultivates a wedding unlike anything else your friends and family have been to before.
Don’t trust yourself to have the creativity to do that? Then talk to your designer, your florist, your caterer and your coordinator about new ideas that haven’t been done a million times already. Express your desire to do something unique—trust me, they probably all have ideas they’ve been dying to try themselves, but haven’t worked with a bride who wasn’t already committed to her own dated Pinterest wedding in forever. Giving them carte blanche to present you with ideas that haven’t been done before is like inviting them to truly flex their creative muscles—something those in these fields generally love to do.
The point is, just don’t get so caught up in the wedding inspiration that you forget that vision you once had of your perfect wedding as a child. Keep your head clear enough to see above the cloud of inspiration that is thrown at you, and to embrace your own unique ideas and concepts.
I promise, doing so will be the best path towards creating the wedding—and wedding pictures—of your dreams!