To Veil or Not to Veil
To Veil or Not to Veil
“Something old, something new. Something borrowed, something blue.” It’s the customary checklist nearly all brides go through on their big day, isn’t it? Even if they don’t believe much in the value of these good luck charms, most brides still seem to get a kick out of the tradition of it all. And there is absolutely something sentimental about collecting those items with the important women in your life. Which makes it a tradition that seems to stick, year after year.
But do you know what tradition has been fading more in the last decade? That of a wedding veil.
The origin of the wedding veil may vary, depending on who are you are talking to, but the story I’ve heard most often is that the veil itself was once believed to protect brides from evil spirits. Other versions, of course, have the veil serving as a mask to prevent would-be husbands from being scared off by the looks of brides they had never before seen face to face. The veil remained until the “I Do’s” were spoken and he could no longer escape, or so the stories go.
Either way, not exactly the most pleasant symbolism to uphold.
And yet still, there is just something classic about a veil. Which is perhaps why there are still brides drawn to the tradition of it all. But is a veil right for you?
First and foremost, let me be clear—there are exactly zero wedding traditions I believe couples should feel pressured to adhere to. Your wedding day is about you, and about commemorating your love. So you don’t have to do anything. Which means that if you find yourself hesitating on the veil, or wondering if it’s a must-have for your big day, have no worries—it’s not.
But maybe you love the coquettish nature of a veil. Or perhaps you’ve found a dress that would just be perfectly accentuated by one. In those cases, veil away!
Of course, there are other things to consider as well. How will a veil interfere with (or add to) your hairstyle of choice? What is the weather supposed to be like on your big day, and will a veil only further contribute to what is already likely going to be a very warm day? When you picture yourself walking down the aisle to meet your soon to be husband, do you want him to see the tears of joy already forming in your eyes? Or do you kind of love the idea of his lifting that veil to see your beaming smile when the two of you finally meet in front of your officiate?
For the record, remember that not all modern veils cover your face. In fact, most don’t anymore, opting instead to flow back over your hair. If you are hoping for that lifting of the veil moment, a blusher is what you’re looking for—these are the veils that most closely mirror history and tradition. Though even with modern blushers, the veil won’t completely hide your face—you have to be able to see your way down that aisle, after all!
As with every detail to be planned for your wedding, whether or not to veil is a completely personal decision. On some brides, a veil can be a classic and beautiful look. On others, it is cumbersome and annoying. What kind of bride are you, and how are you likely to feel about that extra adornment on your big day? Follow your heart on this one; there are very few people, outside the bride to be, who have strong feelings one way or another about veils these days. So opt for the look that seems most you, and remember that there are plenty of alternatives to veils if you decide you want to go another direction.