Tips for the Maid of Honor
Tips for the Maid of Honor
When we think about weddings, our thoughts automatically go to the soon-to-be husband and wife. This is only natural. After all, the big “I Do” usually revolves around those two people.
But if you look closely, you’ll typically notice a small army of loved ones standing around those two people – supporting them in the midst of this momentous occasion. One of those people often takes on a greater role then the rest, the Maid of Honor who takes it upon herself to keep the bride sane during the months leading up to the wedding.
Yep. You read that right. If your sister or cousin or best friend has asked you to step in as Maid of Honor – you have your work cut out for you. Helping a bride maintain her sanity amidst the stress of planning a wedding isn’t always easy.
But it can be a pretty incredible experience for you both.
Your main role as a MOH is to assist the bride with those little details she may otherwise be a little stressed to face on her own. Some of this can actually be a lot of fun, however, including the days you get to accompany her to the shops where she will search for the perfect wedding dress. Of course, some of the hand holding can be a little tedious as well. Helping the bride to address wedding invitations or maintain the gift list for thank-you notes later on down the line isn’t always the most exciting thing to do, but with a little wine and conversation – the two of you can make even the most boring pre-wedding tasks an event to remember!
As MOH, the bride is likely someone you are extremely close to. As such, you are in the best position to anticipate her needs when it comes to the actual wedding day. Does she have a habit of skipping breakfast and getting nauseous later in the day as a result? Maybe her grandmother is skilled at making her feel insecure. Or perhaps you know that a single glass of wine can help her to shed those unwanted nerves in any situation. Whatever her triggers and solutions are, it is your job to anticipate her needs and help her to get through the day with a genuine smile on her face.
Most women will have a bridezilla moment or two leading up to the wedding. There is a lot of stress involved and it’s only natural that your loved one may become a scarier version of herself at some point. As MOH, you are in the best position to help diffuse any situation that may push her over the edge. If you see the bride starting to teeter towards bridezilla status, pull her aside and get her to take a deep breath. Suggest a girl’s night out or a movie night in if you think it will help. Just so long as you get her back to a place of calm, you are doing your job. And remember, she won’t always mean everything she says in those moments of panic – so keep a smile on your own face and remind yourself daily why you care about this woman so much.
Being the MOH has its perks, as well. You do get to plan the bachelorette party, which means that you get the final say in what that celebration will look like. You also get to be the one who has a ringside seat to the bride accomplishing her happily ever after. So live it up and enjoy the ride. Remember, it’s not every day that you get to stand in such a place of honor, and the parties aren’t half-bad either.