When to Skip the Big Wedding and Elope
When to Skip the Big Wedding and Elope
The long white dress, a bouquet of the most beautiful flowers you’ve ever seen, and a gathering of the people who love you most – all watching you cascade down the aisle toward your one true love. It’s the dream so many women grow up with; the dream of being a bride and enjoying a magical wedding of your very own.
Of course, the dream of that wedding isn’t the same for all women. And some, for any number of reasons, may decide they would rather stick to a more intimate event, sometimes even just including the bride and the groom.
For those of you who don’t know, my husband and I actually eloped. And I happen to be pretty fond of how our ceremony, and day, went. Don’t get me wrong, I love a big wedding as much as the next girl. But for us, eloping abroad was more true to who we are as a couple and what we want out of our lives together.
It was the right move, and I haven’t missed that big wedding we didn’t get a single day since.
But how do you know if eloping is right for you?
Well, if you’re one of those girls who has spent her whole life dreaming about a big wedding – it probably isn’t. And if all you’ve ever wanted is 100 (or more) of your closest friends and family gathered together to celebrate your union, then eloping is likely something you would regret. Which means it isn’t something you should do.
But if you find yourself thinking more and more that the stress of wedding planning seems like too much, or feeling like there might be something impersonal about marrying in front of so many others, then eloping could be the right plan for you.
Really, there are so many reasons to elope. For a lot of couples on second or third marriages, they feel as though they have already had that big wedding and they want to try something else. For some people, family drama may keep you from wanting to bring everyone together. And for others, the dream may be to marry abroad or to funnel all the money that would have been spent on a big wedding into something else, like a mortgage or a fantastic honeymoon.
It really doesn’t matter what your reasons are, because those will vary. But if the idea of wedding planning has you contemplating an elopement instead, it’s definitely worth looking into. And it doesn’t have to mean giving up on a beautiful wedding.
So many people have it in their heads that eloping is an impersonal ceremony that takes place at a courthouse, and sometimes – it is. But that doesn’t have to be all it is. You can elope and still get a dress you love, invite your best friend along to stand by your side and have your dream location. For us, we still wanted the “story” so we prioritized professional photographs and a coordinator to help facilitate some of the details we wanted to have happen to create the day’s events we wanted to have happen as well with eloping in another country.
Exchange the word ELOPE for TINY WEDDING in your mind. This will help you wrap your head around what is possible for your special day. Eloping sounds like only the two of you at the courthouse. A TINY WEDDING can be anything you want but still relieved of the stress a regular wedding can contain.
San Diego is a very large destination market and so many couples come here to elope. I have photographed many, many elopements and they are absolutely still special events worthy of capturing and celebrating.
The point is, don’t talk yourself out of an elopement simply because you feel as though you are supposed to be committed to that idea of a big wedding so many other girls dream about. Your wedding should be about you and your spouse and the kind of ceremony you think will be best representative of the two of you. If that’s an elopement, so be it! Just do your research and ask yourself what it is you truly want out of your wedding day. You may come to find that your dream wedding is actually much smaller than you once would have believed it to be.