It used to be that when a woman went into labor, her husband hung back in the lobby. Men weren’t commonplace in the delivery room at all, with all parties preferring they remain tucked away from the action. Once the baby was born, a nurse would pop her head out and tell the daddy what the sex was. Then, he would produce a few cigars for those waiting for him and celebrate the new member of his family from outside those doors.
Today, a man’s refusal to be in the delivery room supporting his wife might instead get him slapped with divorce papers.
Oh how the times have changed…
And speaking of changes, it is no longer the man lighting up a cigar by himself that is deemed the true celebration of new life. No, now it is he presenting his laboring partner with a gift – a push present.
That’s right, a push present.
You may have thought the baby itself was the present, but not so much anymore. Nowadays, women expect a little something extra for carrying the (literal) weight of a pregnancy and going through the pain of labor in order to grow their families. And men are learning to comply.
There are no real rules to push presents. They can be as simple as a coveted book, or as extravagant as a new vehicle. For most couples, however, push presents tend to remain in the realm of jewelry. Think a tag necklace with the baby’s name, or a ring featuring all of her children’s birthstones. Lockets and earrings are also popular choices.
But what if jewelry isn’t your thing? Well, by now that’s something your partner probably knows about you, but since push presents are a fairly new phenomenon – it isn’t a terrible idea to give him or a her a little guidance in what kind of push present would be meaningful to you. Perhaps it would be a professional photo shoot for the family once your new little one arrives. Or a romantic getaway scheduled for when the baby is old enough to be left with grandma and grandpa.
The real goal of a push present should simply be to express gratitude for the amount of effort that goes into bringing a baby into this world. For so many women, carrying a child is seen as a magical and special time. But even for them, there is pain and sleepless nights involved. There is a handing over of their body to this other life. And there are stretch marks, added pounds and lost nutrients to contend with; alongside some of the other less than appealing aspects of pregnancy.
So unlike those days, way back when men were fairly removed from the pregnancy process, men today are expected to acknowledge all that goes into pregnancy and labor. And the push present is a way for them to do that, while also saying, “Thank you.”
Obviously, the push present isn’t a definitive factor in deciding to have a baby for most women. Nor should it be. But it can be a nice way for the non-pregnant partner to recognize just how much a woman sacrifices to become a mother. And while that cooing and cuddly baby often is all the present she needs, that little bit of acknowledgement and kindness can go a long way to reminding her that she is supported and loved as well.
So take the time and pick out a push present. Because it turns out, women are pretty selfless creatures when it comes to motherhood. But that doesn’t mean their partners can’t take a few extra steps to make them feel special and recognized in the process.