Post-wedding to-do: Sending Thank You Notes
With everything that went into planning and preparing for your wedding, one thing you may not have thought out completely was all those thank-you notes you would have to compose once the festivities were over. Now that you’re home from the honeymoon and that top tier of wedding cake is resting safely in your freezer, however, the time has come to make good on all those thank-you’s you still owe.
For many newlyweds, particularly those who threw large wedding bashes, the task of penning all those notes can quickly become overwhelming. It is easy to procrastinate and continue putting the notes off as you instead focus on decorating your new abode and possibly even putting all those gifts you received to good use. Unfortunately, your guests may notice if you fail to get them out in a timely fashion – and for some, it can be perceived as a huge social faux pas. Rather than risk alienating those who care about you, set a timeline on your thank-you notes, aiming to get them out no later than your two-month wedding anniversary.
The best thing you can possibly do for yourself when it comes to composing thank-you notes is being prepared long before completing the task will be necessary. Even as you are selecting your wedding invitations, make it a point to invest in quality stationary or cards you can use to extend your thank-you’s with as well. Then make sure you maintain the list of addresses you used for those invitations, as you will need to refer back to it when the time comes to address these post-wedding notes. Keep your stationary handy and if possible start writing out your thank-you’s as soon as you begin receiving gifts, even if that means before the “I Do’s” have been exchanged. Staying on top of this task will keep you from getting severe writer’s cramp in the end.
If you aren’t able to compose your thank-you’s as you go, make sure you at least maintain a reliable list of what you received and from who. You will want to reference back to this list often, making sure you cross off names and items as you go. Don’t attempt to punish yourself by writing out all your notes at once. Instead, set a goal for each sitting – perhaps 15 notes at a time and then you get a break until the next day. Feel free to place your notes in the mail as you finish them, unless you anticipate there being a long stretch between those completed first and last.
While it can be tempting to write the same generic phrases on every note you compose, try to come up with personal tid-bits you can extend to each of your guests. If someone was exceptionally helpful prior to the ceremony or if one of your friends entertained the whole crowd with hilarious dance moves at the reception – don’t be afraid to note that. Adding just a few extra sentences to let each of your guests know you not only appreciated their gift but also their presence will go a long way.
Remember, your guests will notice if the thank-you card never arrives. Taking the time to extend a personal thank you to those who contributed to you and your spouse starting your lives together can seem like an arduous task, but it will be worth it in the end. After all, these are the people who cared enough to want to contribute to the next stage of your life. Letting them know how much you appreciate that, and them, is more than worth the hand cramps and shaky handwriting.