Finding the Perfect Wedding Officiant: San Diego
Finding the Perfect Wedding Officiant in San Diego
“You may now kiss the bide.”
They are the words every wedding guest waits for – and they are spoken by someone other than the two people those guests are there to celebrate. Ironic, isn’t it? The day of your wedding, someone else is running the show. And that someone will be just as front and center as the two of you during the actual ceremony.
When you think about it like that, your officiant actually seems like a pretty important part of your wedding. And choosing that person wisely starts to seem worth a bit of thought and effort.
It’s possible you already know exactly who you want to officiate your wedding. Maybe you have grown up with a pastor who has always served as a mentor to you, or perhaps there is a close family friend you’ve always envisioned standing in front of on your big day. If so, you’re ahead of the game and know what you want – so go about asking them to do the deed for you already!
But if you have no idea who you want to officiate, there could be a fair amount of stress in trying to make that decision. So start by taking a deep breath and reminding yourself that this, like all other wedding decisions you have to make, does have a solution. You just have to spend a bit of time weighing your options.
Start by thinking about what kind of ceremony you want. Religious? Funny? Warm and personal? Depending on what you’re hoping to achieve, you may be able to narrow down your officiant options.
If a religious ceremony is the goal, start by asking around at local churches and scheduling interviews with those who agree to officiate weddings. Remember that a lot of religious leaders will want several meetings with a couple before deciding whether or not to officiate their wedding. Some may even require pre-marital counseling. So starting this process sooner rather than later is probably a good idea.
If you don’t care so much about the religious tone and just want someone who is a good speaker, ask around and see if your other wedding professionals have any suggestions. Whether going with a religious or secular officiant, though, remember that you have a say in the matter as well – and that interviewing possibilities and searching for someone who feels like a good fit for your personalities is perfectly acceptable. Just because your friends loved their officiant does not mean you will click with them. And since this is your special day, finding someone to stand up there with whom you like and who you feel believes in your love is important.
For that reason, a lot of people have started to select friends or family members to officiate their weddings. Becoming ordained to legally officiate a wedding can actually be done by anyone with just a bit of notice. In fact, most of the work can be done online. So if you have a close friend in mind, maybe someone who introduced the two of you and is a great speaker, ask him or her how they would feel about standing with you on your big day. Sometimes having an officiant who knows the couple so personally can add an extra touch to your wedding that otherwise would have been lost with a generic officiant who was just following a script to get to the “I Do’s”. And for most people, being asked to serve in such a capacity for a close friends or relative’s wedding is actually quite an honor.
Whoever you select, make sure they are on board with your vision of how the ceremony will go. And be sure to plan a rehearsal so that everyone is on the same page.
Then, when the time comes, take their advice and kiss away!