Countdown to “I Do”: Part Three
Countdown to “I Do”: Part Three
So there I was; ring on my hand, love of my life on my arm, and this epic wedding to beat all weddings to plan.
Because that’s how it’s supposed to be, right? Every bride is supposed to want to world’s most incredible wedding, isn’t she?
Well, sure – of course she is. But incredible doesn’t always have to mean extravagant. We’ll get to that though.
Point is, as a wedding photographer, I have clearly been to my fair share of weddings. I have spent most of my adult life capturing the memories made on other people’s big days. I have witnessed the culmination of more “do’s” and “don’ts” than you can possibly imagine. It would be impossible for me to not have started formulating a list of things I did and did not want at my own wedding along the way.
But maybe that’s the beauty of planning a wedding as someone who has been to a lot of weddings. For a long time now, I’ve already known what I would and would not want fro my own big day. There was no need for a well thought out Pinterest board or a scrapbook of ideas…. not that I haven’t used pinterest anyway. I’ve had my wedding (n0t) pictured in my head for years.
I’m came into this, knowing exactly what I didn’t want. The truth is, I didn’t want the big white wedding that so many other women dream of. I think everyone should do it, and to be totally honest, I’ve done it before myself. I’m probably not supposed to tell you that, but there it is. I really do love all the little wedding details that other couples put their energy into, and I especially love being there to photograph those details and help to highlight all their hard work, but in reality – that’s not a priority for me personally. I wanted a wedding that was low key and focused on our actual union, and then a relaxed reception that was more about the guests than the details.
That may be surprising, coming from someone who spends so much of her life documenting those details for other people. But maybe that’s exactly why the whole big, extravagant, wedding thing doesn’t really appeal to me personally. I love being a part of other people’s lavish days, don’t get me wrong. But for me, and for us, low-key has just felt right from the beginning.
Which is not to say there aren’t some details I still care about. I put a lot of thought into finding a cute dress that I just adored from BHLDN, and we put some effort into finding the perfect suit for Ryan as well. I wanted a pretty bouquet, and for our ceremony to be unique and special to us – not something I have already heard 500 times before. There will be no Corinthians.
And obviously, above and beyond anything else, we are prioritizing photography for our big day. We already know who will be taking the pictures, but we’re still working out some of the details. No matter how many weddings I’ve been to, I’ve always known that was not an area I would be willing to sacrifice.
Those pictures will last forever, after all. Long after the cake has been eaten and the dress had fallen out of style. And I want to love them not just be”ok” with them. I know the potential of really great photography… I want that.
Pictures are forever. And I can’t wait to see ours!