Attending a Wedding with Children
Attending a Wedding with Children
There is so much to love about being invited to attend a wedding. The dancing, the food, the open bar, and of course – the chance to watch people you care about make the biggest commitment of their lives.
And for most of us, the opportunity to travel for a wedding is even better. Having a friend or family member get married out of town can be a great excuse for a vacation or a chance to see someplace you otherwise never would have gone.
Who doesn’t love that?
Well, to be fair – for some people, the logistics are a little more complicate than just packing a dress and going.
It’s easy when you are young, single and child-free to really get into the spirit of a good wedding. But once you have children, making the time to attend a friends nuptials can be a little more difficult. It is no longer about picking the perfect dress, dancing the night away, and enjoying your fair share of the open bar. Instead, you now have a little one (or two) to attend to.
Which means handling meltdowns, keeping little tummies full and sometimes even ducking out early, because bedtimes are not to be trifled with.
Kids change the dynamics of your wedding-going fun, for better or for worse. And there may even be occasions when you have to decide that attending a wedding with kids in tow just isn’t worth it, no matter how much you would otherwise want to be there.
But if you do decide to forge ahead, there are a few things you can do to make sure everyone still has plenty of fun.
For one, pack snacks. Particularly if your children are actually in the wedding and will be expected to partake in an entire days worth of activities. The food at weddings can sometimes be postponed, and you don’t want to be at the whim of caterers when it comes to dealing with a hungry 5-year old. Even beyond that, there is no way of knowing for sure if the food being served will even appeal to your child. So it is always best to have a few favorites on hand to keep little ones happy when stomachs start to growl.
Along those same lines, packing a few activities for kids to enjoy during lulls in the day can also be a good idea. A favorite book, crayons or even a mini etch-a-sketch can be good go-to’s. And or course, most smart phones today promise up plenty of apps to keep little ones entertained.
If this is a family wedding, or if there will be other couples you know attending, enlist the help of someone close to you to keep an eye on your kids so that you can also enjoy a bit of dancing or socializing. Don’t be afraid to bring your kids out with you either, though. Most little ones love to have fun on the dance floor, and the photos and videos produced from their moves are often priceless.
Most importantly, know that your loved ones understand that child rearing isn’t always easy and you may need to duck out earlier than you would have before kids arrived on the scene. The bride and groom wouldn’t have invited you or your kids if they didn’t want you there, though. So don’t worry too much about that mini-tantrum your kid throws or feeling like you can’t be the life of the party the way you once were. People understand that parenting can be a pretty all-encompassing job.
Those who love you won’t care. They just want to see you and your children enjoying the celebration of love!